Squirting (or female ejaculation) is the release of fluid during G-spot stimulation. The fluid is similar to diluted urine and doesn’t contain sperm.
It takes time to build up to a squirt, but the sensation is worth it. Try different techniques to find the one that gives you that unique feeling of tension buildup or the urge to pee.
1. Get in the mood
The first step to getting yourself in the mood to cum or squirt is to ensure you’re properly aroused. This could mean having a little foreplay with your partner, or it might mean getting some erotic stimulation before you get started. This can include reading erotica, watching or listening to sexually explicit media, or even just fantasizing about your sexiest scenarios.
Depending on your libido, some of this stimuli might work better than others. But it’s worth trying all of the possible options to see what turns you on the most. The things that turn you on might change from time to time and may even vary between you and your partner.
For example, while some women can squirt fluid that travels up to 5 feet, others only shoot a small trickle of fluid. That’s completely normal and nothing to worry about. It can also take time to find the right amount of force or pressure to trigger squirting for you.
If you’re using manual stimulation to elicit an orgasm, be sure to focus on the clitoris and other erogenous zones for optimal results. You’ll also want to make sure your nails are trimmed and you have plenty of lube on hand in case your body produces a lot of wetness. If you’re worried about a wet bed, you can lay down a blanket or towel to cover yourself.
2. Keep it light
As with everything sexual, the squirting experience can vary significantly from one woman to the next. It can occur as part of an orgasm, be a stand-alone sensation or even happen in the absence of an orgasm. It can feel sweet or have almost no taste at all and may dribble or drip or be a big visible gush.
The fluid is thought to contain a blend of semen and urine. It is also believed that it can stimulate the G-area (also known as the internal clitoris) and Skene’s glands, which connect to the urethra. So, stroking this area can be quite pleasurable.
To stimulate a squirt, try applying some lube to the clitoral hood and stimulating it gently. This could be done with your fingers, a vibrator or sensation toys such as a Wartenberg wheel or feather teaser.
Remember that it is not always easy to squirt and if you’re not a naturally wetter, don’t put too much pressure on yourself or make your partner feel “less than” if they don’t squirt at all. The point is to have fun, relax and explore this very sensitive part of the body.
It’s also important to be open to the fact that squirting will probably end in some sort of mess, which can feel really good for some women. Depending on the amount of pressure you exert and the propulsion force, this may be a small drip or dribble or a large messy gush.
3. Don’t overdo it
The goal of squirting is not to push fluid out through your urethra (although that can be part of the pleasure). It is to experience the sensation of your vulva releasing liquid in response to sexual stimulation. For some people, this is a full-body orgasm; for others, it’s just a little squirt. Regardless of whether you’re going for the big show or just enjoying some light foreplay, focus on getting your partner in the mood and having fun.
When trying to stimulate the G-spot, erogenous zone directly south of the vaginal canal, consider using water-based lube on your fingers as you move around and flex and jiggle the area. Also, don’t be afraid to caress and explore other erogenous zones, like the Skene’s glands and urethral sponge.
When engaging in partner play, try lying on a large towel or mattress protector and spread your legs out wide to give the giver complete access to your vulva and clitoris. This will help to reduce any concerns you or your partner may have about making a mess, and it makes clean up easier when the squirting begins.
4. Don’t be afraid to let go
The amount of fluid that women squirt can vary from person to person, but it’s important for partners to know what to expect. Many women who squirt say the sensation before feels like they’re going to pee, and that may cause them to tense up, which hinders their ability to reach the G-spot. “The key is to let go and keep the muscle relaxed,” says Fox, who also offers sex education classes and tips on her website.
Another way to help set yourself up for success is to make sure your partner’s bed is puddle-proof before getting down and dirty. You can use standard towels, but waterproof sex blankets (available from brands such as Yoni Pleasure Palace, Squirtopia, and Venus Matters) are more durable and easy to clean up afterward.
Regardless of whether or not you successfully squirt, it’s important to remember that bringing lubrication into the mix can boost pleasure and enhance intimacy between couples. It’s also a great way to add variety to your sexual pleasure and increase excitement during sex.
So, get comfy, apply some water-based lubricant, and strobe, rub, and vibe your way into orgasm. And don’t be afraid to turn up the heat and flex those pelvic floor muscles. Just remember to breathe, stay focused on your partner’s face and body language, and enjoy the journey – and whatever happens along the way.